Why this mom is asking people to not talk about diet when buying Girl Scout cookies

It's Girl Scout cookie season and scouts across the country are raising funds through the organization's famed boxes of sweet treats. But as booths pop up in communities all over, one mom wants buyers to be careful about what they say in front of young girls selling cookies.

Nicole Romanella O'Neal shared advice on Instagram in January asking people to avoid talk of diets and calories when approaching Girl Scouts.

In O'Neal's post, she specifically pointed out things to not do when buying cookies, which included:

• Mentioning your diet
• Talking about calories
• Pointing out your body flaws
• Narrating out loud why you aren't buying the cookies because "you'll eat the whole box"
• Asking which cookies are the healthiest

“A simple NO THANK YOU goes a long way for our girls,” O'Neal wrote.

Since then, her post has been shared widely across social platforms – with many agreeing, and some disagreeing, with her stance.

Why the mom shared the post

O'Neal, an advocate for disordered eating recovery, told USA TODAY she penned the advice after attending a Girl Scout kickoff meeting with her 6-year-old daughter. During the event, an older scout gave examples of the types of customers young sellers might encounter at a booth, including the "healthy indulgence" customer.

"It really upset me because I didn't think that the Girl Scouts should even be talking about dieting to young girls, but then it reminded me of how many people my daughter is going to encounter, that are going to say things like that," O'Neal said.

She typed out her feelings on the notes app and posted it to Instagram.

Some commented in support of her advice while others pointed to America's childhood obesity problem or people potentially having food restrictions that they might want to mention.

"I am not anti-dieting for individuals, I'm not anti-wellness ... the post isn't about that. It's about just asking older women and men who are talking to young children, 5 and 6-year-olds to not have to explain why they're not buying the cookies if that's the reason. All I said was you can just stop at 'no thank you.' You don't have to give an explanation," O'Neal said.

'We can't have them obsessing over calories'

O'Neal, who grew up struggling with disordered eating, said the issue stems from language and the messages that rhetoric could have on young girls as they develop their relationship with food.

"We can't have them obsessing over calories and ingredients right now as they're developing their relationship because, they're going to be inundated with these messages," O'Neal said.

She said these girls will eventually come across messages about diet and their bodies, but at such a young age, they shouldn't have to hear messages that could cause them to have a negative relationship with food.

"If in their formative years, they develop a healthier relationship with their body and those comments won't trigger them as much. As somebody who didn't develop a healthy relationship, those comments trigger me more. I look at food as good and bad and it's detrimental to disordered eating. I don't want that for my daughter. I don't want her to obsess about food and dieting the way I have in my life," she explained.

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Young girls are especially at risk for disordered eating

Dr. Samantha DeCaro, the clinical director of outreach and education at Renfrew Center, an organization focused on eating disorder treatment, told USA TODAY there are several risk factors for developing an eating disorder or disordered eating, including being an adolescent and a girl.

"When we're thinking about Girl Scouts, what comes to mind for me is that this is a really vulnerable age," DeCaro said.

She explained that something as simple as going on a diet could trigger an eating disorder for these young girls.

"It's estimated that 20 to 25% of dieters will actually go on to develop a clinical eating disorder, and even more will go on to develop disordered eating for years to come," DeCaro said. "So when I think about the Girl Scouts, I think of a very vulnerable population who may be at elevated risk for developing an eating disorder or disordered eating."

The problem with labeling foods good or bad

O'Neal said while it may seem harmless if 10 people passing by tell these young girls, "I can't buy cookies. I'm on a diet. I'm watching my weight," those messages start to percolate in their minds.

DeCaro explained that labeling food as good, bad, safe or forbidden and sending those messages to young people puts them at risk of engaging in disordered eating behaviors.

Thinking that food is bad usually makes someone feel anxious and guilty about eating it and when they finally consume that, they could end up binge eating it, because they've developed a mindset of scarcity around it, DeCaro said.

"One of the first things we do to help someone improve their relationship with food is sort of teach them this concept that all foods can fit. And health is so much more than what you look like, it's so much more than food."

DeCaro said it's important to shift the focus to "a neutral perspective of the body or body neutrality."

"We need to help our youth shift the focus away from what the body looks like and focus more on what is your body telling you ... Can you tune in when your body is telling you that you're hungry? Can you tune in when your body is telling you that you're full?" DeCaro said.

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What should you say?

O'Neal said if you do have dietary restrictions or are dealing with a health condition, it's OK to pull a parent aside and ask about the nutritional information of the cookies.

It's also OK to pick up the boxes and read the label or check that information online on the Girls Scouts website.

If you're certain you don't want to buy any, O'Neal said you don't owe anyone an explanation.

"A simple 'no thank you' is completely acceptable. In fact, it’s perfect," she said.